A Stroke is Clearly Out of my Control

28 Mar

Honey Almond Pie


Honey Almond Pie

There are times when we think that we are in control of our lives (for the most part anyway) and then something comes to remind us what an illusion that is.  I was reminded of the truth last Saturday.  My cell phone rang with a number that I didn’t recognize though I did determine it was from a Florida area code.  The call was from my Dad’s girlfriend, Eileen.  She called to say that my Dad had had a stroke and that he was in the hospital.  Eileen did her best to paint a positive scenario, but I knew that I would be heading to Florida very soon.

There was one issue that I had and that was how to get back in time for an event that I was to cater for my dear friend Ken in two weeks.  At first I thought, “I can still handle this” because I didn’t want to create any problems for Ken (clearly I have not dealt with anyone having a stroke before).  Just as I was considering what to do, Ken called me and asked casually, “How are you doing?”  When I told him what was going on, without hesitating a moment he said, “Go and take care of your Dad… we will figure this out.”   The permission Ken gave me to let go and focus was tremendous and greatly appreciated.  (I told you he was a dear friend).

Before I took a red-eye flight out of town, I had a few hours and “needed” to feel in control of something and so I baked a pie for Ken to thank him for his compassion and understanding.   Now if I may, I’d like to ask for healing prayers for my Dad.  And if you have any experience with strokes… please share that if you can.

Thanks from the bottom of my heart.

8 Responses to “A Stroke is Clearly Out of my Control”

  1. donna March 28, 2013 at 5:46 PM #

    Karen…I am very sorry to hear this..the last I heard from him he had gotten engaged…Is he ok??

  2. Rachel Whitley March 28, 2013 at 6:53 PM #

    Karen ~ although we don’t see each other much~ please know you and your dad are in our prayers~ may he have a speedy recovery. My dad also had a stroke when he was in his 80’s and all’s I really know is his was a “mild” stroke. And he did get better : ) some hope for you my friend. Lovingly ~Rachel Whitley & Family

    • pieadaygiveaway March 29, 2013 at 9:01 AM #

      Thank you. He seems stable at this point… but a long road ahead.

  3. Mary Danca March 28, 2013 at 11:12 PM #

    Prayers and blessings to you. I hope that he has a speedy recovery. I do know that the sooner a stroke is responded to the greater the chance for a positive outcome. Take care of yourself as well as
    you take care of others.

  4. Donna Wright March 29, 2013 at 9:30 AM #

    My thhoughts and prayers are with you and your Dad.

  5. Donna March 29, 2013 at 11:33 AM #

    Your being in Florida will also be a blessing for Eileen. Take deep breaths, girl.

  6. Connie March 30, 2013 at 7:43 AM #

    My prayers are with you and your Dad! I hope things are improving. Xoxoxo

  7. Shirley Patton March 30, 2013 at 6:34 PM #

    Karen, with children and grandchildren visiting I’ve been distracted from looking at the computer and just read your entry. Of course, my prayers and healing wishes are with your dear Dad, Eileen, and you. Bill had a stroke from which he made a good recovery. The rehab process requires dedication and we were greatly helped by a wonderful support team–speech, physical, and occupational therapists–whose positive personalities made the “work” as much fun as possible. Emotions are very near the surface and I think it helps if the person who’s had the stroke is reassured that it’s all right to experience those emotions freely. Love you! My best to you all.

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